Your Favorite Character

Imagine a movie, TV series, book – or book series; it really doesn’t matter.

What matters is that in that narrative, you are a character – the absolute best character you can imagine.

You stand out. The crowd admires you, understands you, roots for you.

You are the character they believe in – no matter how the story unfolds, you always find your way.

And not only do you conquer situations – you do it with dignity and resilience.

You don’t deviate from the persona they all fell in love with.

Even in tough moments, your strength of character shines through.

People don’t ever doubt you; they somehow just know that you’ll do the right thing.

There’s just no other way.

It’s very clear what you stand for and what you represent.

And your signature is in the details – not just in big decisions, but in the small ways you carry yourself, talk, move, react, show up.

Authenticity.

Strong. Defined. Unshakable.

This is what makes people fall for you.

This is what keeps them watching.

Wanting to witness you.

This is the hook.

Switch the lens for a second, and remember: this has happened to you in reverse – when you were enchanted and totally consumed by a fictional character.

It’s happened at least once. You know exactly what I mean.

There is something special that lies between these two perspectives:

– the one in which you are the character others admire

– and the one where you admire someone else

Now remove others from the equation. What are we left with?

You are the character.

And you are the admirer.

How is that special?

Because that right there is the best version you can possibly be. Why?

Think about it.

The admirer is you. You know exactly what the “ideal” character looks like.

And the character? That’s also you.

The admirer admires you.

You are the ideal.

This is the easiest gateway to becoming the version of you that you keep thinking you can’t be.

It’s the shortcut that bypasses all the emotional weight we assign to things – thoughts, emotions, habits, desires, moods.

In fact, it’s not easy at all.

But it is set up for success.

Become your favorite character.

Instead of focusing on who you think you are or were, or have always been and that’s just how it is – focus on your favorite character.

Bit by bit. Day by day. Situation by situation.

You don’t need to define them down to the smallest detail.

Let them surprise you.

Let them evolve.

This is not about sitting down and writing a detailed dream version of yourself, then reminding yourself all day that you now have a full-time job impersonating that “made-up” version.

No. That’s not it.

The key to understanding this is realizing that:

You already know what you stand for.

You know what you root for.

You know what you admire.

I know that because earlier, when I mentioned being impressed by someone else, you didn’t flinch – you knew what I meant. You’ve felt it.

The reason you were able to feel it is because you know in your gut what you believe in.

You already know your truth.

Even when you’re not asking, your truth is responding – by resonating with things you see around you, i.e., admiring traits and behaviors of others.

And that is the sweetest, most precious, life-changing gem.

Be that character – the one you’d be head-over-heels in love with if they were in the movie.

If it helps, you could actually imagine yourself as a fictional character in a story.

When in doubt, ask – what would that character do?

How would they handle this moment?

What reaction would make me bow in respect?

In random, small situations – what would that character do?

How do they live the everyday narrative?

When thinking about your future – what’s their next move?

What do they need to do for the story to unfold in the coolest way possible?

This isn’t about erasing yourself or trying to be someone else.

It’s the opposite.

It’s about embodying the version of you that does things right – not by anyone else’s rules, but by your own.

The reason you’re not that person yet – even though you know exactly who they are – is because you keep giving yourself reasons not to be:

I’ll do it tomorrow.

It’s just how I am.

It’s hard.

I’m not in the mood.

Emotions took over.

I couldn’t help it.

That’s how I’ve always been.

Honestly.

Would your favorite character ever say that?